I’m Yao Pin from Zhonghua High School. I have recently been involved in a research on the condition that children of different ages communicate with their parents in the community. As is shown in the chart, children between 7 to 9 years old spend 6hours communicating, while children between 16 to 18 years old only spend 3 hours communicating. It is crystal clear that the older the children are, the less communication they have with parents.
For my perspective, both sides contributed to the current situation.
As for parents, as their children are growing up, they put less and less attention on their children, but spend more time on their work. Parents take it for granted that as the age of their children become bigger, children may need less help from parents and should be more responsible for themselves, which will result in the less communication or even no communication between parents and children. In other words, this will lead to the long-term misunderstanding.
As for children, except the fact that children are increasingly busy with their homework, children are stepping into their adolescence so that they want to have more personal and private room for themselves. The fact that they want to keep their secrets will cause them to have no understanding of their parents and lack the family bonding.
As is mentioned above, children and parents have less communicate leading to misunderstanding. To bridge the gap, parents should spare more time to keep their children company, while children had better keep their mind more open to their parents and communicate with their parents more often. I do hope parents and children can communicate more despite the growth of their children.
高三(2)班 卢梦
I’m Yao Ping, from Zhonghua High School. Recently, I have taken part in a research on the condition of communication between parents and children of different ages by surveying the students in our community. As we can see from the chart, children of 7-9 spent 6 hours per week on average, while children of 16-18 spent only 3 hours. It is clear that the older the children are, the less time they spent communicating with parents.
From my perspective, the reasons for this phenomenon may lie in both sides. As for parents, some of them don’t know how to communicate with their children, for they know less about their children than before. Others communicate with their children in improper ways. For example, they are so strict with their children’s academic performance that they often blame their children for poor grade. As for children, some of them have secrets they don’t want to share with parents. Others are too much spoiled and self-centered so that they take everything for granted and ignore what their parents have said.
All in all, the phenomenon reflects the generation gap. It is advisable for parents and children to make joint efforts and communicate more often and effectively. I do hope the relationship between parents and children will be better and better.
高三(4)班 朱绮芸
I’m Yao Ping, from Zhonghua High School. I have taken part in a research on children of different ages talking with their parents in our community. As is shown in the chart, children of 7-9 spent the most time, about 6 hours, talking to parent. Children of 16-18 spent the least time, about 3 hours, talking with parents. It is clear that as children grow, they spend less time talking with parents.
The reasons lie in both sides. In terms of parents, they pay more attention to children’s study so that they are ignorant of talking with their children. Instead, they send children to different after school classes, making children feel annoyed. Others may talk with children in a critical way, which may cause misunderstanding. As for children, as they grow up, they are more and more independent. They want their own thoughts and space, as a result, they talk to parents less and don’t want to share their daily life with parents. Others may don’t perform well in study, so they are lack of confidence to talk with parents.
To sum up, the different hours show the increasing gap between parents and children. I firmly believe that thing will be better if parents improve their way to speak to children and children have courage to talk with parents.
高三(4)班 郑懿君
I’m Yao Ping from Zhonghua High School. I, recently, have participated in a research about communications with parents of children in different age groups by investigating the students in community. As can be shown in chart, children in their 7-9years spend six hours per week charting with parents, while 3 hours are spared by 16-18-year-old students, which means that the older the children grow, the less time they will spend communicating with their parents.
The consequence may result from both sides. For children, with the increase of their age, their horizons and scopes of knowledge are being expanded and their minds are being enriched and opened, which may cause the generation gap between parents and them wider and wider .Due to the gap, children may think chatting with parents is not worth doing. For parents, they sometimes overlook their children's needs in their growth. In other words. They missed many opportunities to praise their capabilities, failing to establish a wonderful image that children can rely on in their minds.
To solve the problem, what children and the parents should do is to know each other further, establishing a solid link between parents and the children, for example, we can spare some time which may be used to watch VT and play mobile phones to have a chat with parents about our problems or something interesting. I do believe that such terrible condition between parents and children will be improved.
高三(5)班 华鸿億
Our community has conducted a survey about the condition that children of different ages spend how many hours talking with their parents per week. Obviously, children between 7-9 years old spending 6 hours, take the lead while only 3 hours are spent by those who range in age from 16-18. It seems that the older we are, the less time we will spend talking with our parents.
On the basic conclusion of the survey, my points of view are as follows. When it comes to parents, as children grow, it is indeed their duty to promote children's independence, learning to live psychologically alone, which is to be content without relying on anybody or anything. Only when children are accustomed to it, can they turn into a genuine grown-up.
With regard to children, gone are the days when parents are the only choice that we can turn to. There is no doubt that we prefer talking to our friends who have the common topic with us, sharing both happiness and sorrow. However, we regard our parents as a harbor with no wind, no rain or even a little sadness, where welcomes us forever. Something special always exists which we are merely willing to confide in them.
All in all, there is no need to worry about the relationships between children and parents. Nevertheless, as the saying goes, blood is thicker than water. We should have talked with them more often than we did because even just telling them about what we struggle with and what we are conquering releases anything negative in us.
高三(6)班 董昕怡
Recently, I have conducted a survey, which aims at finding how many hours children in different ages have a heart-to-heart talk with their parents per week. As the chart shows, when children get older, the time for the talk gets shorter. Children in 7-9 have a 6-hour communication; while in children get 16-18 years old, the average time falls to 3 hours. After thinking it for a while, I’ve found something reasonable behind it.
As for children, the older they are, the less time there will be to communicate with their parents, due to tons of homework and waves of afterschool activities. They have to learn harder and be exposed more to the outside world. Thus they don’t have enough time objectively. What’s more, when children are growing up, they will have friends, classmates and even “Siris”, and therefore, when they get troubles, the first one to turn to will mostly not their parents anymore. Furthermore, since children are more and more exposed to their world, which means the friend circle is mostly in their age, their inside world will be most likely to have a change, as a result, the generation gap between them and their parents are formed, in a way, preventing them to have some time to communicate with parents heart to heart.
From my perspective, although the result of the survey sounds reasonable, the situation need to be changed. Parents are the ones who have brought us up patiently; parents are the ones who care about us continuously; parents are the ones who will always be on our side. Therefore, it is vital for us to make efforts to narrow the generation gap, whose key is to easily have a heart-to-heart talk with them like what we did several years ago. Just cut off some of our just-for-fun activities, just reduce some time on games and TV series, prepare a plate full of fruits, having heart-to-heart talks with parents, and you’ll never regret for it.
高三(7)班 吴嘉豪
Recently, I have taken part in a community research on how long children of different ages have a heart-to-heart talk with their parents by surveying students in the community,ranged in age from seven to eighteen years old . As can be shown in the table, students from seven to nine years old spend six hours per week on average in communicating with their parents. For every increase in age of three years, the average time for communication is gradually reduced by one hour. Apparently, the figures in the table reveal that as children grow up, less time is spent in communication.
From my perspective, the reasons may lie in both side. As for parents, some open-minded parents think it unnecessary to interfere with children's life for they have adequate abilities to deal with the things occurred with age, thus inquiring for less time. Others maybe shift their focus from family to career as children grow up, which can be understandable because middle-aged people are in the golden period of career development. It is their hard work that supports the family and improves the living conditions, leading to the fact that parents are too busy to spare time to sit down with a cup of tea and listen to their children with great patience and willingness. As for children, some makes a number of friends with age and it's easily to find common interests so that they are more likely to share their minds with peers, substituting for parents who seem outdated. The older children are, the greater the generation gap will become, resulting in less heart-to-heart talk. Others grow up to become mature and they are unwilling to see their parents be worried about them. Therefore, they talk less about the difficulties and problems they are faced with to parents, unlike telling parents more about worries and sorrows at a young age.
As is mentioned above, the missing hours for heart-to-heart talk may cause the distance of family relationship. What parents should know is that no matter how old children are, they all require parents' help, support and guidance, while children had better communicate with parents more often because parents will worry more about them if they are ignorant of what happened to their children. I do hope children and parents can talk more to express their love and care which does beneficial to strengthen the relationship and provide both of them with a powerful backing.
高三(7)班 徐馨
Recently, I have taken part in a research on how many hours children spend on heart-to-heart talks by surveying children aged from 7 to 18. According to the chart, it’s obvious that children from 7 to 9 years old spend 6 hours per week, while those from 16 to 18 years old spend 3 hours. With the growth of children, they spend fewer hours communicating with their parents.
In terms of children, as children grow up, they begin to refuse to communicate with their parents. There is no denying that they consider themselves as grown-ups because their self-esteem and personality are being built up. These so-called independent beings show less desire to convey their innermost feelings to their parents. In terms of parents, many of them mistake this inevitable situation for rebelling against them. Therefore, parents get use blames or even violence to oblige their children to observe them, which worsen the situation.
As a conclusion, I highly recommend that children and their parents should resolve the misunderstanding and keep in touch more frequently.
高三(8)班 顾淏
Recently I have taken part in a research on “Hours children spend on heart-to-heart talks with their parents” by surveying children aged from 7 to 18 in our community. The figures in the chart depict that children ranging from 7 to 9 years old spend 6 hours per week while 16-to-18 only 3 hours. It is obvious that the time children spend on communications with their parents are declining with their growth, and reasons are as follows.
Objectively, children are getting busier and busier when growing up. The more advanced education they receive, the heavier study burden they will bear. Together with other activities such as volunteering, children have less and less time to chat with their parents, not to mention a heart-to-heart talk.
Subjectively, both sides are aware of the importance of independence in children’s growth. As for parents, realizing their children are growing up, they tend to let go and give them more freedom to do things on their own. As for children, they want to be treated as “adults”, thus reducing the communication to prove they are completely independent. Besides, children may be unwilling to talk to their parents. Thinking their parents out of date or annoying, they are likely to refuse to have a heart-to-heart talk.
Despite the objective and subjective reasons above, I think this phenomenon is natural as it is during the adolescence that children may reduce their communication. However, after all, only by communicating can a family become happy. Thus, I highly recommend that children should spare more time to have a heart-to-heart talk while parents should know their children’s life on their own initiative.
高三(8)班 张佳辰